So I was that person who had neve used a sex toy– neither for myself, or with a partner. Yep, that was me. I’m your typical mum with a couple of kids who has been with her husband since high school… Not only had I not used toys in bedroom even just for myself, I just wasn’t that adventurous person at all. Just your average bedroom on your back, doggy style, on top or ‘just make it quick’ type of person.
One day, I was speaking to a friend who told me how she’d lost intertest in sex and that her husband introduced a vibrator into the bedroom to spark things up. That’s when it dawned on me and I thought what the hell have I got to lose by doing the same thing! That night – my hubby and I scanned every sex shop on the web and chose one that we thought we could start with. I must admit with so much choice out there it was very overwhelming, but we made our choice, got the credit card out and hit PAY.It felt somewhat naughty placing the order and I felt anxious about it arriving in the mail.
The day it arrived the courier tooted his horn and I went out to collect my parcel. I was slightly embarrassed assuming that the courier knew what I had bought, but with the discreet packaging I soon realised there was no way he knew. I got my little parcel inside with 100 questions from the kid about what was inside - but being a clever mummy, I just simply said “it’s for the office, totally boring kids”, and they were happy with that.
That night when we tucked the kids to bed, we were so excited to unpack our parcel. It was a different type of excitement we had not enjoyed together before. We were like teenagers again giggling in anticipation of this item.
“So, let’s try this toy out” my husband said. Nervously, I removed my clothing and we began to test the device out. I was very surprised by how relaxed it made me feel and the enjoyment it bought to my husband to see my pleasure heighten. It didn’t take long before I was already having an orgasm – and what followed next was an intense and enjoyable little sex session. This small device ignited something within me that I wanted more of. Throughout the night we enjoyed ourselves a few more times. It was amazing and I felt empowered - almost like I got my mojo back.
Today, we have a range of a few more devices hidden in our top draw. I even got the courage to buy myself some sexy lingerie- which I would never have been seen dead in prior to this new found freedom of expression.
My husband has embraced the new sexy me and my best friend is now calling me a horn bag. And you know what after 3 kids, I will happily take that.
It didn’t hurt at all to try!
- Wife and mum of three